Studies have found Communications is divided into 3 groups:
- Body language accounts for 55% of all given communication,
- Paralanguage accounts for 38% (which includes: sighs, pauses and intonation)
- Verbal communication provides a mere 7% of the emphasis (actual words) .
Positive Body Language
- Strong, firm handshake conveys ~ Confidence and Secure Self-Esteem
- Eye contact conveys ~ Openness with Honesty
- Leaning forward with eye contact & hand gestures conveys ~ Sincerity, Confidence, Inquisitiveness.
- Nodding conveys ~ Your Approval
- Natural tone, volume, pitch and pace of voice conveys ~ Security with Confidence
- Hands behind your head with feet on desk conveys ~Confidence or Authority
- Relaxed upright posture with arms swinging naturally while walking conveys ~ Confidence!
- Varying facial expressions to match what is being said i.e., smiling when being friendly or serious when being firm, etc. conveys ~ Openness with Secure Self-esteem!
- Leaning back and looking down conveys ~ Lack of confidence, Unapproachable
- Limp, weak handshake conveys ~ Nervousness
- Leaning in too close conveys ~ being threatening
- Weak, soft voice conveys ~ Nervousness
- Clearing throat, saying "um", "uh," conveys ~ Insecurity with nervousness
- Dropping head and looking down conveys ~ non-trustworthiness
- Staring at the other person during silences causes ~ Increased Tension
- Maintaining eye contact too long (over 7-10 seconds) causes ~ Anxiety or Discomfort
- Rigid, stooped posture, feet shuffling conveys ~ Lack of Confidence
- Folded arms, crossed legs, picking lint off clothing conveys ~ Disagreement or lack of interest.
- Touching your Face conveys ~ Nervousness or Dishonesty
- Drumming finger or twiddling thumbs conveys ~ Anxiety or not paying Attention
- Clenching/wringing hands, playing with jewelry conveys ~ Anxiety, Stress and Nervousness
- Rubbing the back of neck or the hair conveys ~ Frustration
- Sitting on the edge of chair, jiggling foot all convey ~ Anxiety Stress and Nervousness.
Why? Because most Listeners TRUST and RESPOND better to Positive Nonverbal Communication vs. ONLY Positive Verbal Communication. It's simply much much louder!
Here's an example: If someone said "I love you" while yelling, frowning, looking miserable, their arms folded across their chest and they are standing partially turned away from you.
Would you feel their love? NO WAY...Because the non verbal communication together with the tonality of yelling is not congruent with the 'words' being expressed. And guess what? Those words 'I love you' don't mean much in such a context.
Please post what you learned from this article and what you intend to focus on to improve your non verbal communication today...
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