Q: Boundaries Part 3 ~ Are you a Brick Wall or Willow Tree?

The quality of strength, lined with tenderness,
is an unbeatable combination." ~ Maya Angelou

Healthy boundaries are flexible boundaries like a Willow tree that bends in the wind; not rigid brick walls that keep every emotion - positive or negative out.

Brick walls keep you emotionally bottled up and prevent you from experience deep fulfilling love, meeting good people and experiencing many joyful aspects of life. Having said that, moderation is absolutely key!

SOME OF Boundaries MUST be rigid and non-negotiable without exception:
Example: it's never ok for others to lie, cheat or hit you when they're angry.

And other boundaries need to be flexible sometimes. Healthy boundaries need to develop gradually and with cooperation of your partner, colleagues, children etc. This is not a dictatorship!

Great boundaries are best described in the following 13 step example:
Someone who:

• speaks openly and honestly with their feelings even if the listener(s) may be disappointed.
• loves and respects themselves ~ by what thoughts they entertain to what food or snack they eat daily.
• stays true to themselves even if they end up alone temporarily
• is trusted/respected by others for living with integrity
• knows their worth is in who they are and not what or how much they make or own.
• knows who and what is important in their life and they act accordingly
• is clearly grounded and operate from their values vs. people pleasing
• has the strength to say 'no' easily to anyone or anything that conflicts with those values.
• takes full responsibility for their choices & actions ~ positive or negative
• is courageous to say "I don't know...or I need help"
• allows and empowers others to take responsibility for themselves
• understands loving others beyond the point of love leads to resentment and anger.
• takes care of themself so that they are happier, healthier and more complete and whole in their relationship.
• they are responsible to have their own needs met not their partner

Now that sounds easy, right? Ya right... The process is simple but not always easy to implement. If you start now, and commit to this process of change, it will become easier and easier for you to achieve a more content and balanced life.

Keep in mind, this process requires your commitment and patience with yourself. If you're willing to do the work, you will gradually teach everyone around you - how you wish to be treated. If you're going to be hard nosed about what you want and when you want it, this will be a very painful process.

the choice is always yours!

Your Coach,
Nada

Nada Adams, a Success-RESULTS Coach, Empowers Parent-Entrepreneurs to live Authentically with Integrity by using Powerful Intuitive Customized Solutions to create more balance, more well-being and more wealth! Experience NO-BS intuitive 1 on 1 coaching today! For a LIMITED time ~ schedule your initial complimentary coaching call today by visiting: www.vipresultscoaching.com & Sign up for the VIP Connection "Be Authentic; Be Enough" to jump start each and every week!

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